The Wisdom of Abigail
The old adage, “you can’t live with them and you can’t live without them” is one that many males understand well. What the phrase is supposed to mean is that women are difficult to understand! From the female’s perspective, are the males any less difficult to understand?
Generally, the phrase is used when frustration sets in for the male with respect to some aggravation surrounding a female. It is important to remember, however, that when God created Eve, he created a human that was perfect in all respects, just as God created Adam.
No matter the frustration that sets in on occasion, when the male looks at the female, he sees something in her that he lacks in himself. One such example, in Scripture, is Abigail and Nabal. Nabal was a complete fool, but Abigail, on the other hand, was something to write home about (to borrow a phrase). It was the quality of her character that impressed David, who was soon to be king over Israel. He saw in her something that was missing in him. Her sound wisdom stopped him from committing a great injustice; she soothed his male image, and many people were spared tragedy. She was a great woman.