When my husband and I were dating we had many “disagreements” and one time in particular he told me I couldn’t see the forest for the trees; he was right. I was so caught up in the details and slight nuances I perceived as major obstacles that I was putting a strain on our relationship. Sometimes we have to take a step back and really look at what we have and be thankful. Instead of noticing all of the minute ways it could be improved.
In Esther 5 Haman had a severe case of this same issue. Esther 5:9-13 says,
“So Haman went out that day joyful and with a glad heart; but when Haman saw Mordecai in the king’s gate, and that he did not stand or tremble before him, he was filled with indignation against Mordecai. Nevertheless Haman restrained himself and went home, and he sent and called for his friends and his wife Zeresh. Then Haman told them of his great riches, the multitude of his children, everything in which the king had promoted him, and how he had advanced him above the officials and servants of the king. Moreover Haman said, “Besides, Queen Esther invited no one but me to come in with the king to the banquet that she prepared; and tomorrow I am again invited by her, along with the king. Yet all this avails me nothing, so long as I see Mordecai the Jew sitting at the king’s gate.”
Someone looking at Haman from the outside would have said that guy has it all. But all Haman could see was one man refusing to tremble before him. His refusal to look the other way cost him his place in the king’s court, his riches, his family and ultimately his life.
Is there something in your life that is vexing your spirit that could be overlooked or completely ignored? Maybe like me it was something in a relationship, perhaps like Haman it’s someone who just gets under your skin or maybe it’s a task you have to accomplish.
Consider whatever it is and decide if all of the good things in your life outweigh the burden of this thing. Don’t be like Haman and close your eyes to all that God has blessed you with and only open your eyes to the one thing or person that bothers you.
Proverbs 11:16-17 says, “A gracious woman retains honor, but ruthless men retain riches. The merciful man does good for his own soul, but he who is cruel troubles his own flesh.”
Be gracious and merciful and don’t trouble your own flesh by focusing on things you’re better off ignoring. Instead focus on the good then let go and let God.
In Christ, Steve Preston
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