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  • Richard Mansel 10:36 am on March 31, 2012 Permalink | Reply
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    Be Careful What You Say 

    Early in my preaching career, I realized that I must be careful the way I phrase things in order to be sensitive to the needs of the audience.

    For example, on Mother’s Day, I always remember that not all women can be Mothers. In our exuberance to praise Mothers we can say something that will harm the childless.

    Imagine being a childless Mother who hears the preacher say that God blesses godly women with children. The obvious conclusion is that she doesn’t have children because she is a sinner. Where does Scripture say that?

    We can inadvertently say things that can offend people if we do not consider the larger implications of our words.

    When I prepare a power point presentation, which are largely images, I give thought to how something can be taken. In our writing we must always consider this. Sometimes, I fail and people get offended. I apologize to them. But the better path is to try to prevent it from happening in the beginning.

    We cannot always know what will offend people. In an audience, there are many people’s whose lives consist of events and scars that the preacher cannot possibly know.

    Naturally, we can say things that cause harm without intention. Nevertheless, we can give every consideration to what we can control, in this area.

    On Facebook, I just saw a quote that is intended to praise Mothers and Grandmothers. The quote is: The Best Moms Get Promoted to Grandmas.” That is sweet but doesn’t hold a shred of evidence in the real world. Accordingly, I would caution any speaker from using it in a lesson.

    Countless Mothers have children who either die, are infertile or choose not to have children. What does it accomplish to brand these women as bad mothers? How does that help spread the Gospel and help anyone get to heaven? In fact, it may impede their spirituality!

    Let us be careful what we say and use our tongue and pen wisely (James 3:1-12).

     
    • Glenda Williams 11:14 am on March 31, 2012 Permalink | Reply

      So very true. “Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O Lord, my strength, and my redeemer” (Psalm 19:14).

    • Eugene Adkins 12:07 pm on March 31, 2012 Permalink | Reply

      I understand what you mean, Richard. One way that I address the situation on Mother’s and Father’s day is that I remind everyone that there are people, young and old, who need mother and father figures in there life (Romans 16:13 & Exodus 18:13-24).

  • J. Randal Matheny 6:49 pm on February 25, 2012 Permalink | Reply
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    Would that we all had this effect upon people 

    by Oliver Goldsmith

    At church, with meek and unaffected grace,
    His looks adorn’d the venerable place;
    Truth from his lips prevail’d with double sway,
    And fools, who came to scoff, remain’d to pray.

     
  • Ron Thomas 7:07 am on November 22, 2010 Permalink | Reply
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    A Word Spoken 

    Proverbs 10:19 says, “In the multitude of words sin is not lacking, but he who restrains his lips is wise.” Many years ago I learned that the value of a word fitly spoken penetrates powerfully. Though I learned this I did not always do what I learned. While I was in the USAF, stationed in Guam, I heard a brother in the Lord answer someone’s question about why he spoke so little. He responded, “I’m tired of eating my foot.” Those few words said more to me than all the philosophy classes I took in college. What is your impression of a person who seems to always be talking? My impression, sometimes, is that the person doing all or nearly all the talking doesn’t have much to say, but it is going to be said anyway. The context, of course, of the circumstances (and words) will determine how this is to be interpreted. The proverb writer does not speak anything profoundly spiritual. He simply utters a truth that any mature adult can understand. I wish, though, that many adults would transfer this understanding of theirs into actions. Someone has said that if you give a man enough rope and he will hang himself. I think I’ll carry a short rope! RT

     
  • Daniel Haynes 7:18 pm on July 12, 2010 Permalink | Reply
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    The Positive Use of the Tongue 

    David spoke of his tongue as a pen (Psalm 45:1) and his enemies’ tongues as sharp swords (Psalm 57:4). We learn that God hates a tongue which forms lies (Proverbs 6:17). Isaiah prophesied a future time so happy that it would cause “the tongue of the dumb [to] sing” (Isaiah 35:6). The ungodly tongue is described by Jeremiah as a “deadly arrow” (Jeremiah 9:8). James calls the unruly tongue a “fire” (James 3:6). (Read More at The Proclaimer)

     
  • Richard Mansel 2:32 pm on March 19, 2010 Permalink | Reply
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    If we will be skilled at social interaction, we must curtail and control our pet peeves, lest they gain a life of their own and devour us.

     
  • Stephen R. Bradd 11:53 am on March 3, 2010 Permalink | Reply
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    A Drought of Truth? 

    Have you been shopping lately? Many of us do some shopping every week to varying degrees. I read the following story recently and wanted to share it with you. It is humorous but also contains a good lesson. I can certainly imagine a scene like this unfolding in any number of stores.

    A store manager heard his clerk tell a customer, “No ma’am we haven’t had any for a while, and it doesn’t look as if we’ll be getting any soon…”

    Horrified, the manager came running over to the customer and said, “Of course we’ll have some soon! We placed an order last week.” Then the manager drew the clerk aside. “Never,” he snarled, “never, never, never say we’re out of anything; say we’ve got it on order and it’s coming. Now, what was it she wanted anyway?”

    The clerk replied, “Rain.”

    It would be hard to be that clerk and not smile after watching the manager make a fool of himself by speaking before he knew what he was talking about! Sadly, the manager’s problem wasn’t just a matter of speaking out of turn; he was willing to say anything in an effort to make his store look good and in hopes of maximizing sales. He didn’t want the woman going elsewhere to buy whatever he thought she wanted, so he was willing to lie–and even order his clerk to lie–to try to keep the woman’s business. In this case, however, his lying made him look like a fool, at the very least. More significantly, he has proven himself to be lacking in integrity. Anyone who is willing to say anything to try to look good is not to be trusted. Their compliments are hollow and their explanations are not to be believed.

    Let us consider Proverbs 12:17-22 at this time, which has much to say about lying:

    “He who speaks truth declares righteousness, but a false witness, deceit. There is one who speaks like the piercings of a sword, but the tongue of the wise promotes health. The truthful lip shall be established forever, but a lying tongue is but for a moment. Deceit is in the heart of those who devise evil, but counselors of peace have joy. No grave trouble will overtake the righteous, but the wicked shall be filled with evil. Lying lips are an abomination to the LORD, but those who deal truthfully are His delight.”
    Friends, we all are tempted to lie at times for various reasons, but don’t give in to it! God knows when we stretch the truth or utter lies we think are small and harmless. He knows when we manipulate words to make ourselves shine in the best light possible. Remember, lying lips are an abomination before Almighty God! Such is repulsive to the One who sees all! If we deal truthfully at home, at work, and in all other situations, God will delight in us. What more could we really desire?

    (my lesson today from http://www.AudioEvangelism.com)

     
  • J. Randal Matheny 11:20 am on March 3, 2010 Permalink | Reply
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    RE: Ron’s post on speaking little 

    Just last night, I read that one way to sin less is to close one’s mouth. The specific topic was lying. The author graphed it out, for sake of illustration.

    If you have three hundred conversations per week and you lie five times, your Liar Prediction Index would be three hundred to five. You want to lower the number of lies? Then watch this. If you have only two hundred conversations the next week, you’ll bring your net number of lies down to 3.3. Have sixty conversations the following week and you’ll lie only once. And here’s the real beauty of the system. If you want to stop lying altogether, have fifty-nine conversations or fewer. (Bill Hybels, Making Life Work, 88)

    Well, we hope he’s talking tongue in cheek, we know it’s not quite like that. It almost sounds a bit like the Preacher’s admonition not to be excessively wicked (Eccl 7:17). But his point’s well taken, that to sin less, do not multiply words. As NLT puts it,

    Too much talk leads to sin.
    Be sensible and keep your mouth shut (Prov. 10:19).
    Ron, I think you’re on to something.
     
    • Ron 11:35 am on March 3, 2010 Permalink | Reply

      Application is always the most difficult! Difficult, bit worth it.

      I appreciate the little excerpt.

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